It is possible that you can’t get your ex back because you really don’t want to. It might sound harsh, as the truth can, but we often do things that cause us our own dissatisfaction and pain because we believe it is the lesser of the two possible painful scenarios. We often forget to look at the possible positive outcome of extending ourselves. Whether it’s to get ex back or find someone new, self awareness can go a long way.

Breaking up with someone we truly love is a good example of this action. We have no evidence that they might leave us, but at least if we break up with them the pain won’t be as bad. And so we toss away something wonderful in exchange for our own self induced pain.

Alternatively, we eat what we know we shouldn’t and then wonder what fat loss solution will work best for us. Of course, we couldn’t possibly think of not eating the chips, the donut, and the candy bar for breakfast. We do these things because somehow we believe we are taking good care of ourselves.

All of the beauty cosmetics in the world can not hide your ugly side from the world, since that is the one that you put out there. By being ugly, cruel, and even mean you are sure that you will never again have to give into pain in order to be briefly loved. You have lost your faith in the human race.

We do these things because we want to be the best person we can be. We tell ourselves how horrible we are because we expect it to motivate us into being better people. We lash out at ourselves, sometimes physically, because we understand that the more pain we feel now the more we will want to move away from the discomfort and change our lives.

It would be wonderful if we could all put down our weapons of choice and start to realize that there are other factors in play here. We do cause our own pain to make sure that, at the very least, we get to be in control of it. We don’t ask for help and we never look back.

The daily function of our mind is to help us protect ourselves. And yet if we dig a little deeper and we try a little harder, we might just find that we are perfectly able to handle what life throws at us without bearing our own pain first. We might even be able to look past the make up and give someone a real smile.